Updated: Feb 14
Our boundaries play such a critial role in shaping our identies. What we do and what we don't tolerate or permit into our lives become the calling card for which we are known.
When our boundaries collapse, we endure life's experience at the whims of others. Their wishes, their commands, their expectations dictate our days, and our emotions and they drive our focus and energy away from ourselves and our own needs. Our self agenda gets lost in our compliance and capitulation and in time we become lost to ourselves. With no fuel to create our wholeness, we become barren, empty husks depleted of drive and potential. Conversely, too rigid boundaries leave us lonely and isolated. Rapunzels trapped in the towering fortresses of our minds shielding us from life's boogeymen, be they real or imagined.
Healthy boundaries are neither completely fluid nor rigid. They reflect our values, our needs and our priorities. They give us access to others and healthy boundaries give others access to us in a way that does not deplete us and that do not distract us from our priorities and our agenda.
Our boundaries ultimately reflect our power as we relate to others and to the circumstances we find ourselves in. And in that reflection, we alert the world and we alert our subconscious minds to who we are in those relationships and in those circumstances.
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