Confusion and frustration precedes a breakthrough.
Therefore Frustration = Breakthrough = Excitement!
My coaching business has been a dance of confusion, frustration and breakthrough. Before I had recognised the pattern, I would throw in the towel and dismiss myself as not being out of my depth and wholly incapable of closing the gap between where I was and where I needed to be.
There are two spaces in which the confusion and frustration threatened to capsize me; the tech aspects of my business and identifying my niche and my message. These sent me to the depths of despair, and there was a part of me that couldn't see beyond my incompetence and confusion.
Thankfully, I learnt to make peace with the voice of doom and gloom and I persevered, and now , I not only love these aspects of my business, but I am infinitely grateful for the journey that these frustration had sent me on.
I can't tell you how frequently I've wanted to toss my laptop through window! But, I now know the dance. Frustration precedes breakthrough!
So now, when I start to feel that sense of frustration, I lean into the realisation and awareness that a breakthrough is coming. I breathe differently and instead of quitting and throwing in the towel. I offer myself some grace and I have learnt to become patient with myself and to make space for the breakthrough to emerge.
This may mean putting the piece of work down for a while and picking it up again when the dots start to connect; It may look like having a chat with someone, and decanting my confusions and frustrations; It may look like play, laughter and a bit of fun to relax a stressed corner of my mind.
It means believing in my mission and in myself just a little bit more, knowing that the obstacle [confusion & frustration] is part of the path.
My new-found relationship with confusion & frustration is one of the most empowering shifts that I have adopted.
Clarity, breakthrough, confusion, and frustration is a partnership, without which I cannot evolve.
If you find yourself in similar tussle between your dreams and confusion and frustration, I invite you to adopt this reframe:
Frustration and confusion precedes breakthrough
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