Updated: Feb 25
The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.
A hallmark of perfectionism is rumination. Not recollection for the sake of understanding, reflection, and learning. Instead, it's recollection for the sake of self-criticism, self-loathing and self-limitation. It's recollection for the sake of creating a mental and emotional prison from which escape feels impossible. Sometimes this self-imposed sentence is so severe, it becomes a life sentence where your dreams and your potential languish on death row with no possibility of appeal or reprieve. Your rumination plasters your mental and emotional cell with regret, and it decays your self- esteem and your confidence and it severs the bonds you hold with your highest intentions.
It erodes your passions and your purpose and it consigns you to experiencing life in a lackluster neutral, colourless space where things may be 'not too bad' and most definitely 'not too good'. Here's the thing that you forgot about this imprisonment: you hold the keys to your cell, to the entire prison. You are one decision away from transforming your prison to your playground. You are one decision away from being your own captor to being your one true saviour. Perfectionism is nothing more than patterns of thought and behavior. Perfectionism is really nothing more than a fancy word for 'fear '. Perfectionism is really nothing more than a trick your brain plays on you to insulate you from risk. Perfectionism is really nothing more than you choosing not to trust in yourself. Perfectionism is really nothing more than a choice to romanticize the safety of the survived past; however glorious or dismal it may have been. Perfectionism is the choice to not bet on yourself and to bet on your fears instead. Does this ring true for you? Are you ready to break free from this self-imposed imprisonment? If you are, connect with me on DM.
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